This student-author found the resources to be satisfactorily in answering the three questions in the first art of solving his people puzzles: 1) Who is the Me I See; 2) What Hallmark Purpose will govern your relational style; and 3) Who is the Me want to See? The research that was conducted will be used as continuing tool for understanding and growth in this students longing to grow in relational matters. CONTENTS Abstract 2 Part One Data 360 Interview response 4 The Interpersonal Communication Skills Test SnapShot 8 Solve My People Puzzle Part One Questions ћ GRADING RUBRIC 19 Part One Data .. 5 REFERENCES 17 This writer used three assessments to examine the assignment’s questions: 60 Interview surveys (PACE 500 stele, 201 3); Interpersonal communication Skills Test (Psychotics. Com, 201 3); and the Professional/Leadership DISC profile (Uniquely You Inc.

, 2013). Data results are presented in snapshot form to facilitate review. Three questions asked for data integration in order to describe and develop a picture of one’s relational style: 1) Who is the “Me I See”; 2) What Hallmark Purpose will govern your relational style; and 3) Who is the “Me I want to Se?’?This assessment came from two people: Julius Season (Pastor), Marcus Johnson (Mentor). Their responses are color coordinated as: Season (green) ND Johnson (red). 1 . What would you tell [Ben Clayton] if [he] asked you the following question: “What is it like to be on the other side of mere E – That answer would be exciting. The reason why it is exciting is because of the joy, the enthusiasm, and the eagerness to serve that you are able to see and feel as this relatively young preacher moves with passion in his pathway of discovery within his ministry.His wiliness to integrate himself in all aspects of this gospel ministry allows the Lord to test him and open him to all the areas that he can and will used to a greater service.

J – It is a great inspiration o have you in my presence because having you in my presence makes me know that there are some things that I can automatically relax about! Know that any immediate and future concern that have that you will think of how it can be handled immediately or how it can be addressed in the future.I know that if I need some protection from someone or something that I need or anybody around us need, you are going to do everything your power to provide the protection. Finally, I know that ministry, Scripture or sermon preparation will be the topic or topics of interest. 2. How does [Ben Clayton] typically interact with other people? Can you think of a recent example? E – Ben presents himself as being both open and available.When we take in new members to the membership, immediately following the morning service Ben will go to that new member give them a copy of both his card and the pastor’s for contact purposes and let them know that we are both available to talk, to interact in fellowship, and spend time with them as they transition from a large worldly circle of friends to a spiritual gathering of brothers and sisters. Ben is a lover of basketball and plays often.

Last Sunday evening following all services a new member who ad joined earlier that day contacted him about playing with Ben the next time he played.Ben picked him up that evening, took him to the gym, introduced him to his fellow ball players and spent quality time with this young man. This allowed them to begin developing both trust and fellowship as this young saw that Ben’s interest was real and backed up with actions not just words. J – Those that are in-authority over him will be quizzed for information from him and those he is in-authority over he will add value to them. In addition, he adds value to those who are in authority as he brings meeting to the table.For example: Ben could be trusted by his pastor, to lead the congregation while he had surgery and recovered. He added value to the congregation and was completely loyal to the pastor in his absence. 3.

Have you ever been in a situation where you saw [den Clayton] take on new tasks or roles? Describe this situation and what [he] did? E Very shortly after Ben declared his calling to this gospel ministry, the pastor had surgery with extensive post-surgical complications. For months as our only available associate minister all of the preaching, teaching, visitations, and district association responsibilities fell to Ben.He carried these added responsibilities with humility and with spiritual maturity far beyond his years in the ministry. He visited this pastor almost daily as he served the needs of our church and district communities. Now that I am recovering and able to assume many of my responsibilities, Ben continues to serve as directed with a servant’s heart and spirit. J – was privileged to sit on the ordination counsel when Ben was ordained as a deacon. I saw him as he preached his first sermon and was licensed as a minister.

He allowed his pastor to be very unforgettable and confidence in his absence during his illness.When I was asked as the denominational leader of the church where he filled in for his pastor to come in and preach, I observed that thing were in order for the pastor to continue his recovery without any interruption from Ben. 4. What has been a particularly demanding goal for [Ben Clayton] to achieve? E – What is the most difficult goal for Ben to achieve; that would be patience.

Ben wants everyone to be saved and change their lives right now. He wants everyone to come to Sunday Day School Training and Bible Study, right now.If he could make the changes in his life to be a more devoted servant to the Lord, why can’t everyone else see the need and answer the call.

Time and growth in the ministry will help Ben to understand his value and work is to be a seed planter and a pathway pointer, the work of heart changing and life altering belongs to the Lord. J – Because of the intense way that Ben approaches tasks, roles and goals, such as: his Master’s degree, sermons and roles as an understudy pastor, it is particularly demanding for him to achieve patience to wait on his own opportunity to pastor his own congregation. . When you observe [Ben Clayton], which of the following pictures come to mind? E – Ben shares strengths with all the characters, but mostly with the Beaver and the Retriever. Ben had a strong military back ground with awesome responsibilities. He has brought the analytical, self-discipline, industrious, and organizational skill to play from his military life to live within his ministry.

He is able to temper some of the weaknesses of the Beaver with the strengths of the Retriever. He is calm, easy going, dependable, diplomatic and humorous.He is able to look into the center of things and work solutions which he presents with gentle tact and diplomacy. However there have been situations where a more firm hand is needed and given. In these cases what is considered critical by some can be considered as a strong hand by others. The greatest weaknesses can see are that Ben can sometimes be a little fearful and a worrier. When we face these issues they can be thrown back to the issue of patience.

Not having enough time, or knowledge or the how to in order to achieve the goal set before him.The things that do not believe that he shares with these critters are moody, self-centered revengeful, selfish, tinny, unmotivated, nor procrastinator. These are not characteristics I have been able to note in two years of observations.

J – The Beaver comes to mind because of the strengths of the animal. However, the weaknesses are not necessarily what come to mind: negative, unsociable and revengeful, I do not know them to fit his personality. The Interpersonal Communication Skills Test Overall results (score 71) Overall ability to communicate effectively.According to your score on this test, your communication skills are good. As you may know, interpersonal skills are the essence of social interaction; they lay a large role in the impression you make on others. You seem to have a fairly solid grasp of effective communication and put the theories into practice, but there is always room for improvement. All it takes is a little know-how and effort.

Like most things in life, practice makes perfect – and you’re more than halfway there! Unsightliness (score 72) The ability to read others and understand things from their point of view.Your results indicate that you are fairly adept at interpreting other people’s words and actions and seeing things from their perspective – although the rare misunderstanding may occur. Overall however, you seem to realize that empathy is an essential part of good interpersonal skills and therefore, will do your best to place yourself in other people’s shoes in order to better understand them. For the most part, you can sense what others are thinking, and will likely adjust your behavior accordingly if a person you’re conversing with seems confused or perhaps uncomfortable.There may be the occasional time when you pay more attention to the message you’re sending rather than how it’s received.

With some time and experience, you’ll likely be able to improve your insight even more. Verbal Expression (score 68) The ability to deliver a clear and concise message. According to your answers, you are quite proficient at getting your point across to others.

You have a fairly solid grasp of how to convey a message so that people get the intended meaning.You seem capable of explaining yourself clearly, and often use many of the techniques necessary for effectively conversing with others. You appear to be aware that controlling your emotions and adjusting your approach and choice of words according to your audience is essential to prevent misunderstandings. This makes it less likely that you’ll hurt or offend someone, which can occur often when you onto make the intent of your message clear. If you’d like to reach your full potential however, check out the tips in the advice section.Assertiveness (score 60) Your willingness to express differing opinions and to stand up for yourself. Your score indicates that you are fairly assertive when dealing with others and will rarely hesitate to express an opinion that strays somewhat from the norm.

You seldom hold back from asking questions or discussing sensitive issues, even if it may result in an argument. This doesn’t mean that you don’t exercise tact; it’s possible to stand up for yourself without being aggressive. It is also likely that you are fairly capable of talking to people who appear intimidating.This is typically a good sign, because the root of assertiveness is found in self-esteem. In a nutshell, you know that the only way to communicate in a genuine, effective Way is to voice what you’re thinking or feeling, even when it may “rock the boat” slightly.

Since your score was high but not at the very top, however, there is still some room for improvement. Go that extra mile! Listening Skills (score 84) understanding of the rules of “listening etiquette” and the ability to actively attend to others. You had an excellent score on the listening skills component of this test.This means that you have a very good understanding of what active listening involves, and you actually put that knowledge to use in your interactions with others. Many people wrongfully believe that listening is a passive activity, one that consists of simply absorbing what the other person says.

You realize that in fact, attending to others is an active process. It involves making an effort to stay attentive even when the conversation is boring, letting others speak without interrupting and suppressing distracting mannerisms.Keep up the great work – you’re certainly reaping the benefits! Emotional Management (score 60) The ability and willingness to deal with your own, as well as other people’s, emotions.

It appears as though you are fairly capable of handling the emotional part of the communication process. Essentially, you don’t mind feeling a bit vulnerable, which is what this skill ultimately requires. You’re fairly comfortable expressing dealing with emotionally-charged situations; when confronted with a sensitive issue, you rarely avoid discussing it.You are generally at ease discussing the issue Of feelings in a conversation, and rarely mind yourself at a loss for words when it comes to talking about your emotions or responding to someone else. As you probably know, keeping feelings hidden or avoiding them can be very frustrating not just for others but for you as well. This ability to manage emotions has likely served you well, making for smoother communication in your relationships with friends, colleagues and family.

There’s still a little room for improvement though, so keep working on it.Strengths You have excellent listening skills Potential strengths You have average communication skills You are somewhat insightful You are relatively capable of communicating clearly to others You are somewhat assertive when you talk to others You are relatively comfortable dealing with emotions imitations No limitations were detected Snapshots of DISC Graph “This is expected of me” is your response to how you think people expect you to behave. It’s your normal guarded and masked behavior. Description: As an “S” type, you think people expect you to be more sensitive and submissive.You like blending in with the crowd because you feel that others want you to be still and quiet. You can be very loyal and friendly on an individual basis. You act like people want you to be more withdrawn and reserved in public.

You often think you need to serve humanity and do what you are told, rather than challenge others and do what you want to do. Your humble spirit and quiet demeanor makes you well-liked. You are not very outwardly friendly, but you have many friends. People like you because you are not overbearing or confrontational. You think others want you to be pleasing and easy-going.S – STEADY SPECIALISTS s 10 7 23 3 Discovering Your Behavioral Blends “G’s” are stable and shy types.

They do not like changes. They enjoy pleasing people and can consistently do the same job. Secure, non-threatening surroundings are important to them. They make the best friends because they are so forgiving. Other people sometimes take advantage of them. They need to be stronger and learn how to say “No” to a friend who wants them to do wrong. Talking in front of large crowds is difficult for them.

They are motivated by sweet and sincere opportunities to help others.Controlling Your Behavioral Blends Increase your confidence. Fear not. Speak out more often. Be outgoing and less inhibited. Be assertive.

Don’t be insecure. This is me Graphs: This is me” is your response to how you feel and think under pressure – how you really feel and think inside. It’s your normal unguarded and unmasked behavior. Description: As either a high “l / S/ C,” or “l / C / S,” or “S/ C/ I,” or “S / I / C,” or “C / / S,” or “C / S/ l” personality type, you tend to be more passive than active. You also have strong people skills.You can be both outgoing and reserved. You can be the life of the party or a quiet spectator. You generally like to influence and interact with people, but you can also withdraw and concentrate on specific projects.

People tend to like your friendliness, enthusiasm, and cordiality. You may rub Some people the wrong way with your critical and faultfinding attitude. You are not pushy or controlling unless people try to get you to do things that go against your plans or beliefs.

You don’t have to be in charge. You prefer peace and harmony, as well as organized environments.People like your multifaceted flexibility, but sometimes would like for you to be more decisive and direct. C/I/S – COMPETENT INFLUENCING SPECIALISTS D c 13 16 21 17 “C/I/G’s” like to do things right, impress others and stabilize situations. They are not aggressive or pushy people. They enjoy large and small crowds. They are good with people and prefer quality.

They are sensitive to what others think about them and their work. They need to be more determined and dominant. They can do things well, but are poor at quick decision-making.