Fish cheeks by Amy Tan, is about how the mother invites the minister and his family over for Christmas Eve dinner. Not knowing that Amy has a crush on the minister’s son, Robert. Amy gets really upset or in other words terrified because of what the family might think about her family’s culture. In the passage fish cheeks written by Amy Tan, the author uses a lot of details to reveal an embarrassing experience in her youth which had changed how she felt about her family’s heritage, she basically felt ashamed because of other people’s opinions or responses, she cared about their opinions rather than her own feelings instead. Amy Tan concentrates on family heritage by using different dialogues between the Americans and the Chinese culture and how she expressed the way she felt.
Amy was embarrassed about being Chinese, when she invited her crush, Robert over to her house for a Chinese Christmas dinner. In the passage she says “dinner threw me deeper into despair” and she says “I wanted to disappear” (paragraph 5 lines 26 & 34). This quote shows that she was embarrassed. Amy say’s “My relatives licked the ends of their chopsticks and reached across the table dipping them into the dozen or so plates of food” (paragraph 5, lines2-3). Tan expected her family to be more civilized, because the ministers are Americans, they eat normal, but it’s like Amy family didn’t care about the way they eat. She was ashamed of her family and their traditions.
Tan states that she knew that Robert’s family wasn’t accustomed to the kind of meal that was being served, she also embarrassed by her own family’s manners. The embarrassment was evident throughout the night, she couldn’t wait for the night to be over. After the meal and after Robert family’s had gone home, Amy mother realized that she didn’t need to be ashamed of her Chinese heritage, just that Amy wanted to act more Americanized. As she said, “You want to be the same as American girls on the outside” This quote shows how her mother didn’t want Amy to feel such way and never feel embarrassed. In other words, in paragraph 7 she said, “You must be proud you are different, your only shame is to have shame.” Mama’s quote states that you should be proud of where you come from, shouldn’t feel embarrassed. Should be mortified because of what and who you are. Amy just felt upset, didn’t want to know how Robert’s family will think about their culture.
Amy tried so hard to actually fit in but failed. In the society that we live in today, there’s so much pressure being pushed out on us justto fir in and be accepted. Her family’s traditions are